What is Love?

My boyfriend recently told me about an article he read, so I was trying to look it up. It was about how studies show the longer you're in a relationship, the more heartbreak and health issues you could have after you break up. Of course, I failed when searching for it, so I can't verify, but it makes sense. ANYHOW, in the midst of my search for this article, I have found more about love.

It made me laugh.

A lot.

No, I'm not a horrible person, well, I am inherently evil. But that's a different topic.

But I find it funny that I can tell you exactly what love is. And I have been able to since I was younger. Maybe early teens.

Love is not a feeling. It's an action. It's getting up when the person you love is sick and taking care of them. It's making their favorite food even though you hate it. It's not holding things against them when they say stupid stuff that might hurt you deeply. It's about giving second chances, and them always being on their first try. It's about working out your differences and settling on agreement.

It's not about you. You shouldn't expect anything in return. It's not about what can I get from them. It's not selfish.

And you know what else?

we have a perfect example of what love is. Shown to us since the beginning of time. To quote the Bible (LE GASP!!! THE HORRORS OF FREEDOM OF SPEECH AND RELIGION!) We can see where I get my starting point from.

The passage is an NIV translation, and is found in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8. The first sentence in 8.

^"4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.⁸Love never fails."

doesn't that say what I said above? Only it's shorter and doesn't give pin point examples. But you should get the point. Also this shows a bit of what God does. I mean, there's so much about God that I think we'll really only be able to understand him fully is when we die and go to Heaven or Hell. However, you can see these qualities of love in God. God is love. and he is the perfect example of it.

I think that's my rant for the night. I could expand more on the spiritual bit of it. Which I will do. Just not today. Think about it. Look into it. Look to the couples you know that are stronger and see how they treat love. Society has made love about the feelings, and not the action, which has just led to lots of issues.

observations and ranting

It's so funny to watch people. Have you ever sat and just observed people? At school, in the store, parking lot, even your friends. It's pretty fun, and if you're good at it, you can figure out details about a person with out them even knowing you. I enjoy that. I sit in the atrium at my school and observe all the college students/faculty. There's all sorts of age ranges there as well, some high school (me, my brother for example) college age students, people in there 30's and older. Then all the teachers, and some days you wouldn't know they are teachers with they way they hang out with us. I also see how the world is full of hypocrites (YES! It's not just for Christians anymore!) I observe people using offensive language (yes, I get people use it, I'm not that sheltered, but it's seriously like every other word, and then it's just awkward.) and then they turn around and come to my table and not use a word of it, when I haven't told them that I don't appreciate such language. I listen to people complain about the standards that are placed to get into certain degree programs (like nursing for example, you have to take a entrance test, back ground check, and a few other things) and if they get bad grades on there entrance test, or are pulling a 'C' or below in classes, they complain about how it's not fair that they have such standards. I just think that if you are not willing to put the time into study, and are going to complain that much about getting in the program, how much more are you going to complain when you have to do clinicals, take care of people? and personally, I don't want you taking care of me if you can't take your schooling seriously. (don't worry ya'll. I am taking the fact I will care for your life very seriously. But I will tell you now, those classes have been a pain in some ways.) But yet with as much complaining that goes on, they never talk to the Dean of nursing about the standards to get it. Instead they will find anyone in the classes with them to complain. And I just sit there and think what I previously stated, and I also think that it really isn't that hard to do what they ask.

ANYHOW! I feel like I got sidetracked a little...but you might not have caught on to that. =)

So anyhow, Observations...

Kinda like a first impression, only more...secret. I can tell you a lot about the people that go to my school, even if I've never said hi to them. I've had guys stare at me, then turn around and joke with their buddies. I've had people sit there alone and study, every week. I've had those who just walk in the room and make me on edge. I've seen those who are obnoxious one day, then chill the next then repeated the same cycle.

And speaking of cycles, I feel like I'm about to go into a cycle of repetitiveness, so I'll leave you with a parting thought of sorts.

What type of observation do you want to be? A hypocrite, a good one, a bad one, or one where you scare people by the looks. This goes beyond meeting some one the first time. This is where you may never notice a person, and they've noticed you and have figured you mostly out by the time you meet.